My ex-fiancee and mother of our two children up and left me some months ago. She didn’t tell me she wasn’t coming back, just that she was leaving for “a couple weeks to help someone” in her family. Two weeks later, I still haven’t heard from her or my children. Every time I call the number she tried to hide from me (but due to my supreme intelligence was able to track down), there was no answer.

Finally, the next week, she decided to call me. This time she tells me she has to stay gone for another week. But, I know the truth. According to her emails, she left me for another guy.

Almost six months later now, I’ve been able to talk to my kids (thank God!) but she still won’t let them come visit me. I have to travel to North Carolina (from Maine, mind you) to visit them. But only when it’s convenient for her. My youngest son has a surgery coming up that she nearly demanded that I go to. My last memory of him WAS in the hospital when he was sedated after having an MRI. I DON’T want to have to spend my only time with him when he’s like that again. She said that I don’t really care about my kids if I can’t make the trip and then said that I never signed his birth certificate. Looking at them, I didn’t sign either of them, though I am still listed as the father on them. I will also take and pass a paternity test to prove I am the father.

I think it’s sick and wrong them mothers get so much credit for what they do, and fathers take the blame for everything that goes wrong. Why can’t father’s win court cases when it comes to their children? I know for a fact if I did to her what she did to me, she’d have taken me to court and charged me with kidnapping. But because she’s the mother, it seems she can do anything she wants and get away with it.

Disgusting.

Fathers of the world unite: For no longer shall we put up with the system that sees fathers as anonymous sperm donors and a primary support for mothers, second only to the welfare system, of which our hard-earned dollar is also contributing to. If we can’t be allowed to see our children, or get justice when everything goes wrong, then why should we have to give them a cent?

The mother during the pregnancy married another man, and had him sign the birth certificate. By doing so, the other man became the legal and (unofficial biological father). This then stops the ability to court order a DNA test unless the other man permits it…

Fortunately he didn't marry her… But 2 years of his life my son has had another man's last name, and another man on the birth certificate. this has given her the ability to overrule anything I am not fast enough to show my court documents and bars me from WIC, Welfare and other state assistance programs (thankfully i do not need them…)

I have this to say DNA tests should be mandatory in this country, it will solve a lot of child support issues, it will save dads that want to be fathers and prevent cheaters from prospering…

I am rather proud of the fact that this was said calmly and that I didn't slam down the phone!